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Fun rainy day activity

Being a mom sure makes you think outside the box sometimes!
Recently, Enzo has discovered activities that involve sitting and working quietly (even if after 20 minutes he gets bored) like playdough or stickers.
I remembered how fun collages can be for little kids, using items of different textures, so I went looking for stuff I could use for collages at the local discount store.
Unfortunately, there wasn’t a lot of stuff available, only pipe cleaners which I decided were not at all age-appropriate.
So I bought construction paper and glue. When I got home I proceeded to cut different colored paper in different shapes and sizes. I then gave Enzo a sheet of paper and drew squiggly lines of glue. I showed him how to put the different pieces of colored paper on the glue… Voila … A collage! (Not as 3D as I had hoped, but hey, kept him entertained for another 20 minutes!)

all you need: construction paper, glue and a scissor (of course, parents do the cutting!) 

Early Childhood Education IS important (for ALL!)

As a parent of a 21 month old, I have found myself thinking about childcare and school options a lot lately. Earlier this week, as I watched the inauguration of Barack Obama with my son, I thought about how great it would be if early childhood education was something that the administration could focus on for the term. 

This is a topic that is not new to the national conversation. In my research I found a NYTimes piece dating back to 1989 (?!?!) discussing a citing childcare as an area of concern, and discussing a report issues by a delegation that went to France to explore child care in that country. (Interestingly, former First Lady and Secretary of State, Hillary Rodham Clinton, was part of that delegation, when she served as Chairwoman of the Children’s Defense Fund, an advocacy group.)

Last week I read a disturbing article entitled “The Early Education Racket.” It said among other things, that preschool only really benefits children who come from “disadvantage families” such as families that are below the povery line, uneducated mothers or who are racial minorities).  Despite what the Slate article states, I do believe early childhood education is fundamental to getting children on the right track for success in learning later on in life… all children, not only those from “disadvantage backgrounds.”  I compare it to building a home or a building, if your foundation is crappy, then the home is crappy. It is the same thing with children, if you do not give them a good foundation in early childhood, how can we expect that they will succeed later on in life?

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Enzo @ a music class, @ Raising Astoria, Queens, NY

From conversations I have had with other parents, I know I am not the only person who is concerned about this topic, and I knew it must be a topic of importance when  a couple of days ago, one of my favorite journalists of all time, Nick Kristof, wrote a piece discussing the importance of early childhood education and his hope that Obama would tackle it this time around. Kristof explains explains that James Heckman, a Nobel Prize-winning economist, “argues that the most crucial investments we as a country can make are in the first five years of life, and that they pay for themselves. Yet these kinds of initiatives are underfinanced and serve only a tiny fraction of children in need.”  (key word: UNDERFINANCED)

Kristof cites research conducted in Philadelphia in an area inhabited mostly by working-class blacks and Hispanics and points to the lack of resources they have, few libraries and limited access to computers. Unfortunately, access to quality early childhood education and resources often depends on where you live, and as, often pointed out, on your socio-economic status. Data shows that children that come from homes where there are two professional parents working are exposed to more words by the time they are 3 than homes where parents are working class (30 million vs. 20 million), or on welfare (10 million). ***Before anyone starts judging “working class” parents, or parents who rely on public assistance, it is necessary to understand them… if you are working two jobs or working long hours just to make ends meet, you are perhaps not home as much as you would like, or are too tired to engage with your children in stimulating play at the end of a long day. (I don’t work two jobs and sometimes I feel I am too tired to engage!)

Kristof explains that improving education programs for low-income families is a good start to helping end cycles of poverty. I would go further and say that it is not only necessary to improve these programs for low-income children, but for all children; society as a whole would reap the benefits. While I do not qualify for any “low–income programs” such as Head Start, and I live in a household with two working professionals, I can tell you that I would not be able to pay the exorbitant amounts of money that Nursery School in NYC costs, (even more infuriating is that for the price, it is not even a full day of school, but rather some hours a day). If universal Pre-K existed, children would start school at an early age, and this would alleviate some stresses of working parents. I am not advocating for a government handout, but instead for a system where early childhood education is valued for what it is: a stepping stone that will prepare children for the future, and something that all children should have access to. A program that can help working parents, with affordable rates, longer hours (more in tune with the realities of working parents’ schedules!)

I believe sending children to early childhood ed. programs will benefit society as a whole. In addition to preparing children for the future academically, early childhood education programs can help instill in children the social skills they need to be healthy adults. Children could learn, from certified teachers and instructors, how to deal with their feelings,  and learn how to play and work well with other children and adults, in other words… how to socialize outside the family cadre. Aside from learning about the ABCs and colors, these centers could also teach children about empathy, about bullying and why it is wrong, about healthy eating… all the issues that we are currently grappling with in our school systems. They say repetition and modeling is key to learning. Teaching children about these things early on could alleviate some social ills we are currently facing (shootings, bullying, obesity epidemic, just to name a few).   

Debates about early childhood education, Head Start, etc. have been around for a long time. (it’s been 24 years since that NYTimes article!) I do hope things will change in my lifetime. I will leave you with some food for thought, that perhaps show what is wrong with this picture: we spend approximately $7,000 per child in a Head Start program (and much more if it is a private pre-school program, depending on the area, but around $18,000 for NYC by conservative estimates!) but we are spending an average of $31,000 per inmate incarcerated. According to the Vera Institute of Justice, “The total per-inmate cost averaged $31,286 and ranged from $14,603 in Kentucky to $60,076 in New York.” There is something fundamentally wrong with these facts. We currently live in a society that puts more value on putting people in prison than educating children… what an alarming thought. 

“Choosing a Pre-School” easier said than done.

I recently went to a “choosing your preschool” information session at my job. (Baby E is only 14 months, but in NYC you have to start the process a year before you want your child to start! It’s like getting into college for some of these places!) What I find incredibly frustrating at these meetings is the lack of choices parents like I have. What I mean by this is the following: I am not poor, I am not working class, I guess I am considered middle-class, (perhaps “professional” or should I say “white-collar”?)  I do not make a seven figure paycheck, but I do not qualify for the low-income, Head Start programs or city sponsored daycare centers. So my options are limited because I cannot afford to send me child to a $20,000(or more!) a year nursery school (if some of you find this shocking… again, I live in NYC) and I make “too much” for the few “low income” options.

Growing up, my father was a porter, and my mom was a bookkeeper/stay at home mom. For Pre-K, I attended a city sponsored day care center, where you paid on an income based sliding scale, until my parents put me in parochial school. God only knows how they managed to do it, but they did it so that their kids could have more opportunities. It worked too; today we are both college graduates and professionals… It is at moments like these that I *almost* feel “penalized” for getting ahead and moving up in the world. I get a sense that this is a problem a lot of young professionals (especially from working class/immigrant families) must deal with at some point… being stuck in the middle, and not being able to afford one thing but being too “rich” to be eligible for certain programs.

Isn’t one of the things that make America so great the fact that you can get ahead and dream of a better life than your parents? So why do I feel like my opportunities are limited because I am indeed making a better life for myself and my family?

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