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Enzo turns two! Celebrating with Elmo!

My son recently turned two! For his first birthday, he was shocked at how many people came over, and that day he took an extra long nap… so I was determined to make his 2nd birthday a fun affair for him and effortless for me! I have to admit, I got a little carried away… Personally I blame Elmo. Ok, maybe it was my fault for choosing ELMO (a character that has EVERYTHING you could possibly imagine.) I really had to restrain myself… but, Elmo, Pinterest and the Dollar Store really didn’t make it easy… (note: the “Dollar Store” is only cheap when you buy one thing for a buck, not when you want to buy EVERYTHING!) 

I’d lke to give a special shoutout to my friend Randi Klein, aka, Doodlehedz, who trekked from Harlem to Astoria to come take some pics! Enjoy Doodlehedz’s magic!

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Photo credit: Doodlehedz Photography, Copyright 2013 

The first thing I did was find a place where the kids could have fun, and where Mama wouldn’t have to worry about planning every single detail… I found a place called GYM-AZING in Astoria, NY. They were great—the package included three hostesses, bubbles, bouncy house, games, face painting, decorations, pizza and juice for 12 kids. It also had two spaces, one for the games and a private party room for the cake and food. The hostesses were lovely and Enzo had a ball!

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Photo Credit: Doodlehedz Photography, Copyright 2013 

Food: An Elmo Veggie Platter (no, I couldn’t help myself… damn you Pinterest!)

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Elmo veggie platter: Grape tomatoes, olives, baby carrots and feta cheese

Loot bags: I had a range of ages, but they mostly consisted of: Elmo/Sesame Street/Hello Kitty coloring books, whistles, Elmo cards, crayons, Earth’s Best Cookie Monster Vanilla Cookies, hair ties for the girls, erasers. I bought colored cellophane paper and wrapped up each gift.  

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loot bags. The gift bag tags are available here. Thank you to my friend Haath se for making all these downloads FREE! 

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The mini chocolate wrappers are available here

Of course… every birthday party need cupcakes! Minis for  the kids, big ones for the big kids! image

Photo credit: Doodlehedz Photography, Copyright 2013 

I love the contrast of #architecture in #NYC #fifthavenue #spring #bigapple #nypl #latergram #iphoneonly #igers #iloveny  (at New York Public Library)

I love the contrast of #architecture in #NYC #fifthavenue #spring #bigapple #nypl #latergram #iphoneonly #igers #iloveny (at New York Public Library)

Two yrs…Mama learned the truly important stuff.

My son turned two a few weeks ago. Today, as he got out of bed (by that I mean he climbed out of my bed) realized how grown up he looked… Where had my little mushball gone? When did this transformation take place? Then I started thinking about my own transformation. I started thinking about all the things that once seemed do important, that today take a back seat. Don’t get me wrong, there are still things I do for me, however, I have developed a more refined sense of what’s important. And, I’ve learned, that its OK to have your priorities change. It’s ok to not want to go out, to prefer dancing to the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse song than to watch the shows I’ve DVRed.

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silly in sunglasses, ready for the sun!


They say your life changes as a mom, and it sure does— in the beginning I had some trouble with that. I missed having control over my life, I missed an inkling of free (=me) time. Now that two years have gone by, and Enzo is a running, talking, tantrum-throwing yet munchkin love fest, I no longer think that I’m missing something, I seize the opportunities I have to spend some quality time with him. Don’t get me wrong, I love the occasional (REALLY OCCASIONAL!!)  mami-pedi, but I think I’ve come to terms that there’s only one of me, there’s 40 hours in the work week, and few hours to try to cram all the stuff I’d like to do in the little time I have! So, in the grand scheme of things, my vanity has gone out the window (holding on by a thread perhaps) me… Who wouldn’t have have been caught dead at a party without a manicure! And, confession, I hadn’t gotten a pedicure in months… I swear my feet were developing personalities of their own. (and my legs…that’s another story— at least it’s not summer yet…) but… who cares? Enzo will love me with chipped nail polish, or undone eyebrows… he would love me no matter what… (luckily so will my husband)

Tragedies like last week’s bombing reminded me that what is truly important (the kind of stuff I imagine flashes through our minds right before we die) are not the things that I used to think were so paramount in life—the little things that I cared so much about, like having perfectly shared eyebrows or a perfect pedicure. What I’ll remember will be those moments like cuddling with my LO, or playing fort, or reading the same stories over and over again… Because I won’t remember how many crappy toenails I had, but I will definitely remember the big smiles, the laughter, hugs and TAMOs* Enzo gave me. (* TE AMO=I love you)

Did you have an aha moment? Were there things that you missed that now you’ve just understood that they’re trivial? 

Please share below, or tweet me! @dianalimongi 

Bringing up a trilingual baby.

It happened a couple of weeks ago, I was washing dishes and Hubbs was at the table. My Munchkin tab to me and said “Mama, mas.” (mom, more) So I said “anda pídele a papa” (go ask Dad). He went to his dad and said “papa encore.” (dad, more) I couldn’t believe my ears. I mean, I was pretty sure he knew to distinguish between the two languages, but I had never heard him code-switch like that, back to back.i I had read about it, but I hadn’t seen it. I have to say, it’s pretty spectacular—that moment when you realize your kid is getting it! Right now, we are raising Enzo in Spanish and French mostly, but since he has started a toddler program and a sports class, he is being exposed to some English… So he is also learning some English as well.

Raising your child to be multilingual is no easy feat. Just like raising bilingual children, it takes tremendous dedication.  I am already anticipating the inevitable day that will one day come, when Enzo decides to rebel and he will want to speak English to us because, 1. He will realize we speak English 2. His friends all speak English and he will want to be like his friends.  

Until that day comes, I will not fret! I will just keep working at helping him love and learn all the languages around him!

We have to make kids want to keep at it, so let’s make it fun! Here are some tips: 

  • Sing silly songs, play games, use every opportunity to introduce new words: I like saying “Mama says THIS, but PAPA says it like this.”

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Sung to the tune of Freres Jacques

Credit: Pinterest (teacherspayteachers.com)

  • Many DVDs have other language options (I just discovered that my Mickey Mouse Clubhouse can be seen in French!)
  • You can also check out Youtube… I have found Sesame Street, Mickey Mouse, Dora, all in French and Spanish… my favorite one by far is the potty-training video “Elmo Va Al Baño”
  • HIre a fun babysitter that speaks the language you want to reinforce
  • Have playdates in other languages

  • Check out websites that offer tips, support and activities such as Spanglishbaby! Check out their Pinterest boards where I found this: image
  • If you can afford it, spend some time in a country where you child can be immersed in the language
  • If you have friends/family that live abroad, ask them to send you some books or toys in other languages.
  • Check out your discount/99cent stores…Sometimes you can find great stuff in other languages! i found this Cookie Monster set in Spanish at Jacks 99cent world on 34th Street in NYC (note: it was not 99Cents!) image

  • Books in Spanish are a mouse click away! Check out books on Amazon.com or check out a Target near you— look what I found there:
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    As always, I welcome your tips, comments and advice below, or on Facebook or Twitter @dianalimongi

FRIDAY: giving moms the illusion that work is done for the week!Via someecards created by Diana Limongi, aka LadydeeLG

FRIDAY: giving moms the illusion that work is done for the week!

Via someecards created by Diana Limongi, aka LadydeeLG

Enacting the Dream: a Convo on Immigration Reform: RECAP

Last night I had the opportunity to attend “Enacting the Dream: a Conversation on Immigration Reform” at the JCC in Manhattan with guest speakers Jose Antonio Vargas and Roy Naim. The event was moderated by Immigration Equality’s Executive Director, Rachel Tiven.

Photo Credit: JCC In Manhattan

The night started with Rabbi Ayelet Cohen, Director of the Center for Jewish Living at the JCC,  discussing why immigration is relevant in a Jewish context, and how appropriate it was that we were discussing immigration reform on the day after Passover. Passover commemorates the story of Exodus, when the Jewish people had to flee Egypt. As a matter of fact, Jose Antonio Vargas joked that when he attended his first Seder, as he was reading the Haggadah, (text used to recount the Exodus story during the Passover seder) he exclaimed “this is all about immigration!” (This drew laughs from the audience!)

In what felt like a truly intimate setting, Jose and Roy, both undocumented immigrants brought here when they were young (Jose at 12 and Roy at 4), gave personal anecdotes about how being undocumented has impacted their lives. Most inspirational of all was the courage that they show, going around the country telling their story. Roy, whom I had the pleasure of tweeting with after the event, would probably like you to know that last night’s event was his second ever… A funny and relatable guy, he’s the guy next door, the guy who has spent much of his life helping others… I truly hope that he continues sharing his story; not only because he is funny and relatable, but because I think that it is incredibly important to show that undocumented immigrants can be ANY COLOR, ANY RELIGION, ANY ETHNICITY, and ANY CULTURE. This is not a Latino only issue, it is not an Asian only issue, or a “Brown” issue, as Roy said, this is a humanitarian issue.

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Art by Favianna Rodriguez — with Julio Salgado, Josh MacPhee, Cynthia Brothers, Diana Mendez and Rita Jimenez.

We don’t ever think of Jews, Germans, or Russians as undocumented… we usually think of Mexicans, Guatemalans and other Latino people. I am truly grateful that Roy has decided to put a Jewish face on Dreamers, and immigration reform. Like many Hispanic, Asian and African fathers, Roy’s father came from Israel to the “Golden Medina” (the gold country) and later brought his family. Roy explained that his parents tried to find a legal pathway to citizenship but none existed. Today, after many expensive legal fees, Roy’s parents and siblings have documents; they are one of the millions of families who live as “mixed-status” families, i.e, families who have at least one member who does not have documents.

“Each undocumented person belongs to a family and to a community.” – Jose Antonio Vargas

“What is America? It is contributing to one another. I am American.” – Roy Naim

“An Unjust law is no law at all.” – St. Augustine, Martin Luther King Jr. (cited by Jose Antonio Vargas)

“Immigration should be seen as an opportunity, not as a problem.” – Jose Antonio Vargas

Perhaps the most poignant moment of the evening for me, came when Jose Antonio Vargas said that someone had asked him once, “What are you afraid of?” and He answered that he was afraid of how he would react when he saw his mother (Jose hasn’t seen his mom in almost 20 years!) As a daughter of immigrants, and now as a mom, my heart sunk when I heard him say this, and I had to fight back tears. I can’t imagine not seeing my parents for that long… I mean, it is a whole life time! I can’t imagine being separated from my son for that long! How hard it must have been for his mother to make that decision. Immigration opponents like to criminalize parents of DREAMers saying that they “broke the law” by bringing (or sending) their kids to the United States, but they fail to realize that it takes A LOT for a parent to separate him/herself from a child. Parents that do send their children away, usually do so because they want a better life, one that they cannot give them in their home countries. I assure you, it is not a decision that is taken lightly.

Both Roy and Jose talked about American friends who have helped them along the way: friends’ parents who wanted to adopt Jose, a rabbi who helped with medical bills. They both recounted events that were marked by the fact that they didn’t have papers: not being able to take the SATs, having difficulty traveling, not being able to study. Roy mentioned how limited he felt—knowing that he had so much to give, yet not being able to because of a piece of paper!

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Photo Credit: Diana Limongi, AKA @LadydeeLG

Immigration reform is a human issue. It is inhumane to treat people like second-class citizens, especially when many of them are taking care of your children, mowing your lawns, cooking your meals, delivering your take-out, walking your dogs, picking your fruit… you get the picture.

My hope is that immigration reform will become a reality, so that people are not forced to live their lives without the possibility of realizing their full potential. This is a humanitarian issue, and, as Elie Wiesel said, NO HUMAN BEING IS ILLEGAL (thank you AP for stepping it up and banning the use of ILLEGAL when referring to a person!) 

What does the future hold for these inspiring young men? Unfortunately, Jose was 4 months too old to be eligible for deferred action, and Roy is eligible and is waiting for his documents. Jose continues to write, is working on a documentary and travels the country speaking about the issue. Occasionally, he enters into civil Twitter brawls with conservative anti-immigration folk. Jose is waiting for Immigration Reform that hopefully will give him a path to citizenship, because, as the TIME article said “He IS American.* (just not legally). Jose founded Define American, an organization that seeks to have real discussions on immigration. Roy has just started being a voice for immigration reform and DREAMers, and I hope he continues to do so!

You can follow Jose on Twitter: @joseiswriting and Define American: @defineamerican.  You may follow Roy @RoyNaim.

As always, I welcome your feedback below, on Twitter, or on Facebook.

My baby is two!! Mi bebé ya cumplió dos años! @babyenzog

My baby is two!! Mi bebé ya cumplió dos años! @babyenzog

Potty training… mama’s getting ready!

As part of the Huggies Madrinas del Baño campaign, (Godmothers of the Bathroom in case you’re wondering!) I had the opportunity to be part of a teleconference with Dr. Andres Cotton, pediatrician based in Miami with 17 years of experience, and Jeannette Kaplun, mommy blogger, author and former host of Viva La Familia on Univisión and most recently, creator of bilingual site, Hispana Global.  It was really great to get advice on potty training from a medical perspective and a mom who has gone through it twice!

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Dr. Cotton and Jeannette made really great points, some things I had not thought about… I think the most important thing I learned is that each child has to be ready! If we try to potty train a child when he/she is not ready, potty training may face obstacles, and it is common for children to experience setbacks. We live in a society where parents are feeling pressure to have their children do more, and do it earlier and earlier! We feel we have certain goals to meet at certain ages, and if we don’t meet those developmental goals, some people may be judgmental and say we are not doing a good job! Despite what some preschool programs will have you believe, experts say you shouldn’t start training your little one until you see that they’re ready.

Another really important point that they made is the importance of having everyone involved. For those of you not familiar with Hispanic culture, that means Abuela, abuelo, tias, tios, madrinas, primas, primos, babysitters, anyone who isn’t really family but that is like family too! Everyone has to be on the same page, so that they encourage trips to the potty, and so when, as parents, we decide that it is time to embark on that journey full of poopy and peepee, everyone will be on board. It can really mess up the process if mom does it one way, and Abuela goes back to diapers when she babysits, for example.

Jeannette shared her experiences with us, explaining that she faced pressure from family members who said her son “should” be potty trained by a certain age.  Dr. Cotton explained that some regression was normal, and not a source of worry. He explained that potty training is a stressful event for children, and that it was our job to make it fun—this would help take the stress away from the experience. I imagine if potty training is started before a child is ready, that would be an added stress as well.

I completely agree that kids have to be ready—I mean, I can’t get Enzo to put on his coat without a fight when he has decided he doesn’t want to, so why would I want to start potty training if he’s not ready? That would just frustrate both of us. I think equally as important, is that parents have to be ready. And… I am not ready yet! I am not going to lie—it’s not like teaching a child how to eat or drink from a cup! I mean, it might involve a few accidents with poop… It requires patience, persistence and probably a whole lot of hugs and laughter. I am really happy to be learning and discussing tips and tricks from Dr. Cotton, Jeannette, other mommy bloggers, and friends who have been through it! I am thankful to be able to learn from other moms. I can’t wait to start using the Big Kids App on my Iphone to celebrate Enzo’s tries!

If you haven’t checked out Pull Ups on Facebook, you should! You will find great tips there and answers to many questions you may have! Also check out this video on Youtube, reminding us how important it is to celebrate every try!  

This is part of a compensated campaign with Latina Mom Bloggers and Pull Ups.  However, all opinions expressed are my own.

Food Power! Momsrising’s conference on Childhood Obesity Recap

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to attend Food Power! MomsRising’s conference on Childhood Obesity. The event was a delightful afternoon with amazing speakers. The room was filled with people who care about the alarming rate at which obesity is affecting our children.  The good news is that childhood obesity trends can be reversed, but everyone has to work together. EVERYONE means parents, teachers, schools, communities, government and even food companies if (God help us) we can get them on board.

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We heard two touching testimonies from moms who had realized that the cheapest food, or the way food was cooked, or the way that certain cultures teach us to eat were not the healthiest. Unfortunately, food insecurity and access to good quality, affordable food are concerns. Good quality food is many times not accessible to people who live in poverty, or people who are working hard to make ends meet, like single moms. One of the speakers, Tanya Fields, gave a riveting testimony about her “aha” moment… when after three weeks her kid’s chicken Nuggets had been fossilized in a book bag, but not exactly rotten. This couldn’t be real food, she thought! Today, Tanya runs The Blk Projek…. Check out her bio, she is truly an inspirational speaker!  We also heard from Migdalia, aka MsLatina,  who talked about her “aha” moment, when her 15 year old son was told he had high blood pressure and high cholesterol, this led to a lifestyle change for her and her two boys.

 Next, we had the opportunity to watch “Soul Food Junkies,” by Bryon Hurt. Byron goes on a journey to discover what soul food is, and what impact soul food has on the Black community’s health… but Byron goes beyond that, he discusses the problems of food insecurity and food justice in poor and minority communities— where many times good quality food is inaccessible or too expensive. This documentary is truly a must-see!

I chose to attend the Junk Food in Our Schools with Yoli Ouiya, from the New York Coalition for Healthy School Food, and Elisa Batista, superstar campaigner for Momsrising.org, among others. All breakout sessions sounded so interesting, but to me, this is an urgent matter because schools can have a real impact on educating kids on healthy eating. The access that our children have to junk food in schools is pretty alarming… just a few days ago, in doing research about schools in my area, i came across a school menu that had the following options for purchase: bagels, ice cream, hot dogs, chicken nuggets. I mean… really? These items for purchase? Why do they need to be sold to children? Hot dogs and ice cream should be saved for special occasions, not every week at school! Children don’t really need to be eating these low nutrition, high calorie foods every week!

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Elisa discussed the power that moms, bloggers and community members can have in getting things to change, especially using social media to express discontent, rally together for a cause.

Does the alarming childhood obesity rate worry you? Are you a concerned parent or community member who believes we shouldn’t allow schools to sell junk to our children? (May be cheap now, but will cost in the long run, with unhealthy adults and rising healthcare costs!) What can you do? First thing, become informed! There are a myriad of great resources online, and you can do something to make a difference! 

  • Join Momsrising.org and stay informed of their campaigns tackling important issues such as sick paid leave, childcare, education and childhood obesity.
  • Check out Preventobesity.net
  • Participate in your child’s PTA, school board, attend district meetings, etc., to stay informed about food quality in your schools!
  • I urge all concerned parents and community leaders, everyone—to head over to preventobesity.net or regulations.gov to submit a comment regarding Competitive Foods in Schools (foods that can be sold a la carte, or in vending machines.) before April 9th. Below is a list of ideas you can comment on:

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Have other ideas? Does your school provide healthy snack options? I welcome comments below!! Or you can tweet me, @dianalimongi  or visit me on Facebook @ LadydeeLG

Becoming a mother = realizing YOUR mother was right about everything (ok… mostly everything.)
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Becoming a mother = realizing YOUR mother was right about everything (ok… mostly everything.)

#motherhood #moms #mamas

created by LadydeeLG @dianalimongi

Via someecards